1. Believe in your abilities
It is difficult to build self-esteem when your boss is constantly breathing down your neck, but Copeland says the important thing is to remember that you are good at your job and you're in the position you're in for a reason. "Just remember that they hired you for a reason," says Copeland. "Don't interpret your boss's fear of losing control to be a reflection of your work."
2. Don't go over the boss' head
The best way to handle a personality conflict with your boss is to address it with them directly. If you talk to another executive about the issue and your boss finds out, he might feel like you went over his head. Also, bringing HR has its own snares. "Very often, we think of the HR team as our best friends who are there to help make things happier at work for employees," explains Copeland. "In reality, their role is typically to help protect the company from serious legal risks, such as lawsuits. Going to HR first will likely make the problem worse. Wait to escalate to HR until you've tried to work it out with your boss one-on-one."
3. Start managing your boss
But what do you say to your boss once you are in the lion's den? "Think of your boss like your customer," suggests Copeland. Come up with a solution that will help them feel better and will give your conversation a starting point. For example, if they are constantly checking in with you or showing up to meetings unannounced, try saying something like, "I'm feeling as if I may not be providing the type of update about the project that would work best for you. I want to be sure I'm providing everything you need. Would it be helpful if I were to provide a daily email update on the project status?" Chose a direct way to take control of the situation and come to an understanding that you will provide all the data and information they need. "When you look for ways to ease their fears, you can begin to "manage" your manager," says Copeland.
4. Look for Red Flags from the start
The job interview is a good time to keep an eye out for red flags that your future boss is a micro-manager. "When you're interviewing for the job, be sure you look at the process as a two-way street.," says Copeland. "Don't simply hope and pray the boss will hire you. Think about the things you need to know before accepting an offer. While you go through this process, pay attention to how you feel about your interactions with the boss. Be on the lookout for little signs including how specific they are about your interview schedule, your start date, and your salary."
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